Sigh! Seems like every time I want to focus on a basic goaltending topic — from techniques to game preparation — something happens that pulls me in another direction. Recently, it was the suspension of Andover (Mass.) High School hockey coach Christopher Kuchar and two assistants for alleged mistreatment of their players.
Sheldon Berman, superintendent of Andover schools, took that action after saying Kuchar prohibited players from eating for 12 hours after a loss. That charge, on its face, was absurd (seeing the away game was, at most, only two hours from Andover). Berman said he was acting on complaints from parents, some who had contacted the state’s Department of Children and Families.
Then the story gets really bizarre. Seems two years earlier, Berman wrote a memo to Andover principal Philip Conrad and former athletic director Don Doucette, chastising Kuchar for the treatment of Berman’s son, Dale. Obviously, I can’t go into every detail of a six-page memo (yup, six pages!); it’s easy enough to find it online. Suffice to say, Berman’s memo is a classic example of parental overreach. Considering that it came from the superintendent of schools, addressed to two men who work for him, Berman’s memo borders on egregious.
Dated March 28, 2016, Berman’s memo starts: "I would like to express serious concerns about Coach Christopher Kuchar in his role as Head Coach of the Andover Ice Hockey Team. My concerns are twofold. On the one hand, I believe his coaching style is not one that is aligned with the larger interests of the Andover Public Schools. On the other hand, I believe his treatment of my son falls close to the category of abuse."
What followed was a six-page character assassination of Kuchar (and a bloated ode to Berman’s son), ending with the superintendent recommending that Doucette fire the coach. "It is my belief that Andover would serve students far better with another coach," wrote Berman.
The memo, frankly, is mind-boggling. It’s a particularly vile bit of skullduggery, because Berman sent it privately to two men who not only answer — directly or indirectly — to him, but also have a direct say in Kuchar’s employment. And I’m not the only one who thinks so. Some 40 Andover parents recently attended an Andover School Committee meeting looking for answers. According to published reports, Andover Selectman Bob Landry said the bigger issue wasn’t the coaches, but Berman’s questionable behavior.
"It is remarkable to me as a School Committee that you are ignoring the elephant in the room," Landry told committee members. "You have evidence now that the superintendent of schools wrote a sixpage memo to two subordinates encouraging them to terminate the Andover High School hockey coach in clear retaliation for how he felt his own son had been treated. How that doesn’t warrant an investigation by you immediately is beyond me."
The crowd applauded, but School Committee member Shannon Scully accused him of grandstanding. "We can’t entertain personnel matters in open meeting," she said. "This will be dealt with in executive session. If you don’t mind getting off of your soap box that would be fantastic."
First, Ms. Scully, you can entertain personnel matters in an open meeting. This is a classic dodge that public boards use to avoid conducting public business publicly. There are exceptions that allow boards to meet in private, or "executive session." Here is the first one, per the state’s Open Meeting Law Guide: "To discuss the reputation, character, physical condition or mental health, rather than professional competence, of an individual, or to discuss the discipline or dismissal of, or complaints or charges brought against, a public officer, employee, staff member or individual."
Note the phrase "rather than professional competence." Landry was specifically questioning Berman’s professional competence. I agree. Berman was completely out of line with his memo. Now, you can say the "discipline or dismissal" phrase applies, but that doesn’t prevent committee members from suggesting an open hearing with the coach and the superintendent. Did you ask, Ms. Scully?
If Kuchar or Berman decline, you then assure your constituents (yes, you work for them) that the full minutes of the "executive session" will be released once the issue is resolved, per state law. Your community deserves complete transparency.
Second, if you don’t like people getting up on a soapbox, Ms. Scully, be more forthcoming. This isn’t on Bob Landry. This is on the members of the Andover School Committee. Residents have every right to question whether the committee fully investigated Berman’s memo. For it to come out in the press feeds that suspicion.
I’ve had this happen to me, though on a much smaller scale. I am an "old school" coach who believes in working hard while we’re on the ice. I owe that to my goalies, and to their parents and/ or their program, who foot the bill. I also like having a good time. There’s almost always a lot of laughter and good-natured ribbing during my sessions. My favorite students are those who can smile while working their tails off.
But I’m also the first to admit that my approach is not a one-size-fits-all. I welcome conversations with parents, especially if they think my style isn’t working for their child. I can handle it. My only goal is to make sure my students get the maximum out of their ability. Having fun is a close second, and important, but it’s not my top priority. If that rankles a child, or parent, they need to talk to me, so I can understand what their priorities are. From there, I can adjust. But if parents take a backhanded approach, there’s little I can do.
Two years ago, one of my bosses asked about a particular student. The young man had told his father that I made him feel bad about himself, and he didn’t want to work with me. The father (who didn’t attend the sessions) didn’t contact me; he contacted my boss. When asked about the student, I answered honestly. I couldn’t remember treating this young man any differently than any other student. I wasn’t even sure what behavior I was answering for. But I was disappointed that neither the student nor his father brought their concerns to me.
Likewise, I’m a parent. My two daughters played varsity sports through high school, and my eldest continues to play collegiate volleyball. My wife (also a coach) and I haven’t always seen eye to eye with the coaches that our girls have played for. But when we’ve had issues, we addressed them civilly, respectfully and directly with their coaches. Not after games, or practices, but usually over coffee.
In short, it’s OK if you don’t agree with everything your child’s coach does. But there’s a right way to address those concerns. Don’t do what Superintendent Berman did. He tried to leverage his position to oust a coach he didn’t like. There’s no place for that in youth hockey, or high school hockey. Berman, and the Andover School Committee and school officials, need to take a long, hard look in the mirror.
